Survivors who have a great deal of guilt associated with their abuse can find themselves in a “self-punishment” frame of mind quite often even when they don’t want to be having those intrusive thoughts. It can be devastating to their lives and cause problems with their relationships.
Being able to move through that guilt, to accept that what happened was not the fault of the survivor can make significant differences in life quality. The weight of guilt can be a very real thing that can lead to depression or other mental health issues. It can also be at the root of self-harming behaviors that may or may not put the survivors life at risk.
When one is able to accept a guilt-free role in their abuse it can significantly boost self-confidence and self-image. Guilt is often accompanied by shame, feelings of being “dirty” or “broken”, and a pessimistic self-image. All of these are misplaced. Abuse does not make anyone less no matter how abnormal they may feel.
Survivors are not dirty, we have no reason to feel shame or self-hatred. What happened to us is not something that anyone deserves to experience and we are faced with the task of dealing with the outcome (often times alone or without In Person support). It can feel overwhelming at times, but I want every survivor out there to know that it is okay to struggle. It is not your fault that you have experienced this pain. I believe that you are all beautiful people who deserve love and respect.
Please, be kind to yourself. If you would like to talk with someone or look through information resources, we are currently in the process of compiling links for your convenience. Your e-mails are always welcome, as well.
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